The narcissist fails to view other individuals as actual humans, he fails to understand that they have needs, feelings and lifes of their own. He values himself so highly that he simply can not understand that they are actual human beings with their own lifes, he views them as empty shells, small actors in a world based around him. When the narcissist discovers that he is not the only real person in the world he gets chocked, he can not understand how an inferior being like the people around him – can be like him.
When he discovers this quality in one person, he thinks that it’s only true for that person and everyone else are still small actors.
The narcissist has big trust issiues, he can’t even belive that the emotions people display are real. When someone displays happiness or rage, he thinks it’s all a big act. Their emotions are not real.
So if a narcissist laughs you in the face while you are throwing a tantrum it is because he thinks you are putting up a show.
Love – love is something the narcissist knows nothing about, it is as strange to him as aliens to regular people. He does not belive in love, he thinks it’s all a big conspiracy, since he is unable to feel love and connect with people on a higher level. Therefore the narcissit can not understand how anybody could ever love him.
Narcissism is strictly genetic, unlike sociopathy and dissasociative identity disorder it can not be “created” by negative events and traumatising accidents in early childhood.
Therefore it is 100% shur that one of hes parents is a narcissist, but the other one does not necessarily need to be.
In the eyes of the young narcissist, the narcissist parents’ behaviour and way of showing their form of “love” is normal, but the normal parents’ way of showing love is fake and exagurated.
The difference is usually that the narcissist parent usually treats his child as an extension of himself – he usually shows his love in a materialistic way, giving his child gifts in form of toys and candy, while the normal parent tries to avoid giving too much presents and tries to show her version of love – emotional love, but the child does not respond to that cind of love – he views it as a form of attention, but he does not understand it.